Two weeks ago I did something I’ve been wanting to do for at least a month. I quit blogging for Weddzilla. I went back and forth on it for weeks. I didn’t want to quit since I had made a commitment and felt bad backing out. Their editor Heather had been really supportive and nice and had had trouble with bloggers being unreliable and I didn’t want to let her down.
Originally I started blogging for Weddzilla for purely selfish reasons (but then again it was unpaid so it was a mutual selfish arrangement). I saw wedding blogging as a way to blog for a legitimate site and get some experience for my portfolio as well as hopefully gain some readers for my personal blog. This may have worked with another blog, but Weddzilla was not the right blog for this.
The first problem I had with Weddzilla was that they refused to share information with me. It’s very easy to track readers on blogs (I use Google analytics on this one). It helps you see what entries are popular, what city/state/country your readers are in, and how many visits you’re getting on a daily basis. I wanted my numbers from Weddzilla so I could see what entries did well and also be able to use in a future resume/portfolio (posts are kind of useless if you can’t also share metrics). They refused to share this with me which irked me since I was providing content to them for free and really not getting anything in return. They told me maybe later so I kept going in hopes that day would arrive (it didn’t).
The next problem I had with them was that they didn’t allow linking out from posts. I’m a big believer in citing sources and in blogging I think if you’re using someone’s work or mentioning it you should link to it. It’s super easy and just plain polite. They later loosened up on this, but still not enough for me to feel like it was following common blog courtesy. They also wouldn’t allow us to sign off with links to our own blogs or twitter so it allowed for very limited conversion. If this were a paid gig, I wouldn’t have a problem with it, but again, it’s not.
I also didn’t get the community that I was looking for. The only people commenting were other bloggers for the site, so I felt like I never got honest feedback or interaction. I want people to read my blog posts because they’re interested, not because they’re repeatedly asked/required to by the site I’m posting for. There were also a lot of venders posting who tended to post very biased posts. The wedding coordinator would post why you absolutely need a wedding coordinator, the DJ would post about how you should spend more money on music, etc. Wedding planning is frustrating because everyone is always trying to sell you something or make you pay more, I felt uncomfortable writing for a site that was supporting this so heavily. I want my wedding blog to be helpful to brides, not be part of the scamming. I also had a florist freak out at one of my posts on why I’m not using a florist and not doing flower centerpieces.
The final straw for me is this asshole. I didn’t always agree with my fellow bloggers in their posts, but I respect their opinions. This guy went too far for me. He’s such a egotistical, misogynistic, asshole that I don’t want to write for the same site that has him posting. They have him posting because his fiancé is a “celebrity” (LA DJ with a few thousand twitter followers) and they’re hoping to use that to get more readers for the site. Super classy.
I can’t control who they let post on Weddzilla and frankly, it’s their site, they run it. I can control who I post for though and when I got an email from Heather telling me she was resigning I let out a sigh of relief and told her I was too.